We're all busy. Life is busy, and every month we take a deep breath and say a silent prayer that this is the month things will slow down. I am a firm believer that once one thing ends in your life, instead of life slowing down, it's just replaced with another task or event. Here's a shout out to you working moms of multiple kids! I have one, and am down to working only about half the week, and still am just not thriving as much as I'd like to be. Maybe once Baby B is a year old, I'll be more in the swing of things.
And to think when I was little I wanted to join every club and group so I was always busy and never home... If only I had that energy again. Now I just want to go to The-Middle-of-Nowhere, Montana & build my own one room cabin, & live off the grid... Sadly I have student loans, & a car payment, that just doesn't agree with my next to no income life style I wish to have... One day Big B, Little B, & myself will move & be self sufficient, but for now, while my life is just one GIANT scrambled up mess on high speed, these are the things I prioritize, or at least the things I try to remember need to come first.
ONE: Baby B.
I know a lot of people say that you should be number one, but if I have to wait to take a shower until after we play all morning, and he goes down for a nap, then so be it. I'm not the type that wont leave the house without a full face of makeup, or spend an hour and a half on my hair. Even if I had all the time in the world, I still wouldn't take the time to do all of that. So in my particular situation, Baby B is number one, but don't feel bad if you are the type that can not function until you have a hot shower in the morning. Baby B is the easiest to keep happy, it doesn't take much, and it's quick to find something to entertain him, so once I get him situated and taken care of, I move on down the list to what else needs some attention.
TWO:
Myself.
I do know the importance of not forgetting how important your mental health is. I can put off my shower for 3 or 4 hours if it means tuckering Baby B out, but I do need my me time once in a while, and it's not just 'no baby' time, I am a very un-social person, and I need my alone time. Being around people drains me very quickly, so I am tired most of the time. Once or twice a week, Big B will take Little B fishing with him. This is the greatest thing. Baby B loves sitting in his seat, staring at the lake, or napping, he's happy with it for hours! Meanwhile, mommy lays in bed at home, watching netflix, until I decide to take a nap. Sometimes I drink a pot of coffee, and power clean the house, because it feels SO nice to actually get something finished without being interrupted .
THREE:
Big B.
He works so hard, and more often than not, on his one day off, he watches Baby B, so I can go to work. He doesn't have the Mommy Drive we have, so he doesn't get off work, go pick up Baby B, come home, start dinner, play with the baby, feed everyone, clean up the house, play with the baby, shower, bathe the baby, play with the baby, put the baby to bed. If you have a man that can do all of that, you my dear, hit the jackpot! He is still adjusting to having more than himself to be responsible for, and recently he has TOTALLY stepped up his game! He doesn't understand everything I do on the daily, but I have faith one day he'll see it. I try to make sure he knows I notice everything he does, and let him know what a help he is & how much I appreciate it. I show my love how I'm sure most of you do, I pick up after him sometimes, I don't turn on the light in the bedroom in the mornings, when it's a rare day that he actually gets to sleep in. I surprise him with his favorite dinner, I make him brownies, I let him pick out what we watch on Netflix...You all know the special ways Mamma's show they care. I just don't want him to feel like he is lost in this crazy whirlwind that is our life.
FOUR:
Our House
We have a very, very small house that we are renting at the moment, and we are desperately searching for another place to rent, or to buy, but for now, we have to work so hard just to make this house function. It is a full time job itself. Our living room is long and narrow, so narrow that we can't even have a coffee table...so if there's a pair of shoes, or a TV tray, or Baby B's swing left out at the end of the day, it pretty much makes for no walkway through the room. Which leads to both of us being irritated, I'm sure all of you can relate to just wanting to throw in the towel, and see how long it takes for someone to step in and clean up after themselves once you stop. If that ever works out for me ( I try that approach often), I'll let you all know... Making my house a priority, keeps my anxiety down when its clean, makes Big B happy to come home to a clean house, and keeps foreign objects out of Baby B's mouth, when he has all sorts of room to crawl around. So my house if high on my priority list, even when my entire world is upside down and on fast forward.
FIVE:
Family Time.
The majority of both sides of our family's live in the same town as us, and we are both close with them. So dinners out at my moms house, or going over and helping with yard work at Big B's aunts, are both weekly things for us. We usually just meet somewhere after work, and head to their house, or just meet at their house, instead of running home first, so it doesn't make everything that much later. We both like to go to sleep early, since Big B usually works early mornings, and I have to wake up with Baby B early, whether I work or not. My mom only works half the week, so if we both have the day off, we spend it together. She sees Baby B almost every day. It is important to us that we are close to our family, they are the ones that we love the most, and they wont be around forever, so they are on my list of things to focus on when everything else is lost in chaos.
SIX:
My Car.
I just got a New (to me) car. It's 10 years old, but I am planning on keeping it as nice as possible. When you get a new vehicle you feel like a Bad *ss, and over time that feeling fades, well I paid damn good money for my car, and I'm going to keep the new excitement in our relationship! Don't let your vehicle get cluttered with baby things, or even your own things. Because in that rare moment, when baby's not in the car, and your cruising by yourself, and a good song comes on, turn it up, and rock out, take a timeout from being a mommy. And if your rear view mirror is reminding you of the heaping pile of baby clothes, toys, and blankets in your back seat, that just doesn't sound like a nice mini break to me. Keep it clean, and dusted, and take good care of it. It's a big financial commitment, and I would imagine most of you are hoping your vehicle lasts you as long as I'm hoping mine last me, so check your fluids, drive safe, heck you can even get a 'New Car Smell' air freshener!
I'm sure all of you have very different things to list for your top 6, which is great, this is just a reminder to keep your top 6 a priority, even when life is absolutely bonkers, keep the important things straight, and give them the needed attention and love. Comment and let me know your top 6, and how you keep them feeling special!
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